“And by the way, everything in life is writable about if you have the outgoing guts to do it, and the imagination to improvise. The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt.”
― Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath
I got interested in coaching many years ago as a mother to my young son. I was keenly aware of my responsibility to help him discover and optimize his natural talents in a fulfilling way. And I needed help!
I have since sought guidance from friends, family, books, Ted talks, sports coaches and animal trainers to understand what works, from ancient times to the present.
Coaching Circa 3076 BCE
A fine example is how Krishna coaches Arjuna in the ancient Indian epic, 'The Mahabharata'.
In a world where we spend vast amounts of time on emails, text messages, social media and automated services, one wonders if technology and social media are in fact, anti-social, taking us away from that very important face-to-face communication with another human being.
A new piece of reserach has looked into the amount of times British smartphone users check their handsets and on average, it is 221 times a day! The relationship we have with our phones and technological devices seems to have taken over our face-to-face interaction with each other.
Do you give up easily? Do you blame yourself? Do you think things cannot change?
Obstacles are not something we talk about when we discuss achievement. Yet, how you deal with your obstacles is just what determines whether you fail or succeed!
Scottish nationalist leader Nicola Sturgeon took part in several Scottish and UK wide TV election debates in the run up to the 2015 UK general election and according to opinion polls was regarded to have had a successful performance.
Journalist Rashmee Roshan Lall was the former editor of The Sunday Times of India and also has presented ‘The World Today’ for BBC World Service; she is currently based in Abu Dhabi and is an editor at The National.
On Being a Journalist
One of the favourite topics for research in the area of women’s leadership is on why women generally do not negotiate for themselves. There is substantial amount of research on why women don’t ask and how this results in us getting much less in life, especially professional lives. It is bad enough that we have to counter the subtle and not so subtle gender biases, but our inability to ask worsens it. One research paper even quantifies it with an example where two MBA grads, a man and a woman, start out with a $100K salary. The man negotiates and gets a 10% increase.
Recently I had a row with someone.
You know how it is, you don’t mean to, but tempers fray and a falling out happens.
The next day I got an email. A very strongly worded and emotional email. It was upsetting.
And for a moment I wanted to hitback, to shout and rage and scream, because of course what they said just wasn’t fair. I wanted to justify myself and point out where it was wrong and to generally shout down this email.
Liz Scully spent 20 years working in film post production in London, New York and Los Angeles, won Emmys and Baftas and has been nominated for Oscars. But after working with extremely talented but tense individuals on tight deadlines and even tighter budgets, she realised she needed to take a deep breath and refocus. So she did. Today, as CEO of Rethink Retreats, Liz helps people focus, find passion in their careers and realise their potential.
From colleague to colleague, partner to partner, function to function, a personal or a company’s success both in gaining value and maintaining relationships depends on how well you get the conversations right.
A difficult conversation describes a common dynamic in disputes – “The attitude of ‘I’m right and you’re wrong!” that lies at the heart of practically every position based dispute. I come across this on a daily basis, while getting and giving feedback.